Sunday, April 15, 2012

Melancholy Moments

One wedding...

 is but a sweet memory now.

{ Brittany's bouquet drying} 
{we created it together...definitely fun!}

And one is yet to be.

My heartstrings are being tugged.

These two girls are grown women,
and their room will be completely empty...

in 5 short weeks.

It's the little things, you know...
that make my eyes well up with tears.

Our dog Penny, looking forlorn each
morning when she sees Britt's bed is empty.

Driving up to my house and not seeing
any cars in the driveway, after years
of it looking like a used car lot.

Seeing their sleepy faces and bedheads each morning.

I could go on and on.

What I wonder is...

How can such a deep sense of joy


an aching heart

occupy the same place

at the same time???

{photos via Martha Stewart}

It's truly a mystery of life.

And only God truly knows the "how" of it.
{and I'm all right with that }

I heard a quote that I adore years ago,
and it fits my feelings right now sooo perfectly.

It thrills my soul that they both
are making their hometown area their home
for now.  
A blessing indeed!

All three of the grown girls are no more than
45 minutes away,
they love Mom's cooking,
so they'll be back often!!!

Always so much to give thanks for!!
And pretty flowers always bring me joy!!

I'll have more wedding photos soon!

Hugs and JOY!!!


Shabby chic Sandy said...

Sweet post--looking forward to wedding photos!

Susan @ said...

Congratulations! How lucky you are that your girls live 45 minutes away! Sooner than later your rooms will be filled with grandchildren :) My first of 4 daughters is getting married next weekend and they will also live only 1/2 hour away! We are so blessed!

LDH said...

I hear your heart!

Looking forward to seeing more photos too.

miss flibbertigibbet said...

All that you say is so true! How nice that they are so close and the other poster is right...soon there will be grandchildren there and THAT is a GREAT joy! I have six and they are wonderful!
Blessings, Lorraine

My Sparrows Nest said...

I understand your heart-thoughts. They echo mine as I am helping my oldest and only girl (three boys after her) plan her wedding. I get to help her go dress shopping this week. I am trying to absorb all the changes this will bring.

jmac said...

Now, you've made me well up a bit on this monday morn...but it's a sweet 'well'!! My melancholy results from my 3 three sons continuing the circle of life we made for them! Babyboy got married a yr ago this month,,,and two older ones just blessed me with grandchildren. happy and complete as my life feels right now...I've still given my boys away to other women. Who I love with all my heart and they love them like I do. BUT...with sons, even tho they love their mama and will always be here for me, they still leave your home, albeit not your heart, and go to their wives homes. It's true....daughters never really leave their mamas but little boys do. It's the man thing. The indedpendence thing. which is what we taught them and hoped for...yet when it actually happens? Well, you know.
I understand exactly what you say about bittersweet. Independence makes for a proud, yet; sad mom sometimes!!!
Thanks for letting me get this out!!

Kar said...

They will always be in your heart. And without a doubt, you are always in their hearts. You are blessed that they are all so near. All these wonderful moments will be followed by many more in the future with your girls.

Karffee :)

Elena said...

Such a sweet post. Brit's bouquet is just beautiful! Hugs to you today and comfort for your mama's heart.

Debbie said...

Do I ever understand your is such a mixture of feelings. You raise your kids with the INTENTION of them being strong, independent men/women of God, and yet the letting go is still REALLY REALLY hard. I miss all the little things too. With my boys as well as Mel. My middle son John was over for dinner and the evening last night (a rare event let me tell you, haha) and we sat and talked, and talked, and talked. How I have missed doing that with him. Our dog Elvis sat on his lap unmoving. And Elvis never seemed to care that much about him when he was living with us, haha. I know you know how blessed you are that they are all right there near you. It is still kind of hard sometimes even when they are. But as you know my Melly moved 1000 miles away right after the wedding. And now my Sam is too! It is still bewildering to me sometimes. But God is faithful. I am REALLY excited to see the pics Becky! Wedding #2 is right around the corner now. I bet that's what is making this hard too. The weddings and the letting go came so close to one another. But you will adjust to your new normal soon I promise! Blessings to you!

Lynn Richards said...

So, so understandable, Becky. What an emotional roller coaster! Thank you for sharing your heart.
Just think of all the wonderful-ness that will come with these awesome additions to your family. Not the same as before, but beautiful anyway.

Kathy @ Creative Home Expressions said...

It's definitely bittersweet, Becky. Thankfully, they live close and I'm sure you will see them quite a bit. I think daughters are good that way, too. Sons you kind of have to prod a bit. : )

The Polka Dot Closet said...

Oh, Becky don't be sad, I am excited for my sons wedding, he has been out of the house for a long time though, I am so happy that he's happy. It would be great if you could make it to the FF, as soon as it is finished I go into wedding mode too!


Kasia said...

What a beautiful post! I think you are right, what is it about that? Well, as long as theyre back for dinner all is good! :) The bouquet is lovely, so nice to preserve it!


Nellie's Cozy place said...

Boy what a great quote, and so very true............
Just think about all those wonderful dinners to come, and now you have 2 more sons to go with it...........

and then will come the time when they will start making dinners for YOU!!
What a joy that

Love you sweetie, and feel your heart and know it isn't easy, but we know God's ways are not our ways and that makes it somewhat easier,
but still stings a bit, but it is amazing how we can have joy in the midst of it, and when we think of all the wonderful possiblilites ahead.

Looking forward to seeing the pictures with you. Did you get my email right before the wedding???
Keep forgetting to ask you. Good talking with you yesterday.

Hope you are rested up for the next go around, praying for you hon,
Love ya, Nellie

Donna said...

The bouquet you made together is beautiful! How fun and happy this time of your life is.

Each new era of my life has been fun, yet sad - but the sadness quickly settles into happiness!

There's more to come!

Blessed Serendipity said...

It is so hard to see them leave the nest but it is also a happy time. We do the best job we can as parents and we know in our hearts that our children were never really ours but on loan to us from our heavenly Father. Hugs to you today.


Elizabeth and Gary said...

Hi Becky,
I know how it feels when the kids leave the nest. But let me tell you they really never leave even though they are married. My girls always tell us "I feel so good when I'm home"
Looking forward to photo's.
Have a sweet day, Elizabeth

Walking on Sunshine... said...

A perfect way to put your thoughts into words! Glad your girls are still pretty close! Enjoy your day and the rest of the planning Becky!

Abby's Paperie Garden said...

The bouquet you created together is so pretty and how lovely to be able to cherish it forever. Congrats to you and the girls!

xo, abby

Amy Kinser said...

My sweet friend...I have missed you. I think about you often. I cannot imagine when my children leave home. Sadness that they are gone, but joy that they are able. Bittersweet for sure.

love you much...amy

FleaingFrance & French Shopping Tours said...

Oh how lucky you are to have your girls so close to you. The bouquet is beautiful and I am sure the next one will be as well!

sandra said...

Oh Becky, my heart feels what you daughter is going to leave the nest and move out next month and even though she will be close to home, I will definitely miss her car in the driveway, morning coffee chats, her perfume in the air and all the things you mentioned that make sweet daughters. I love the saying, thanks for sharing!!! Hugs :))

openid said...

Such a lovely post that eloquently expresses what each mother will experience -- if they've done their job right!
Your daughter made a beautiful bride. I'm happy that all of your daughters are staying close and you can see them often.
Looking forward to more pictures!
Your Friend,

Cape Cod Washashore said...

I'm weeping just reading your words! My oldest has one more year of high school, and the thought of him going away to college soon just makes me teary-eyed (but overjoyed for him at the same time)!

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Sandi said...

You are blessed indeed Becky!! Our youngest son and family live about 30 minutes away, but the others live 2 and 3 hours away. Still so thankful that they don't live STATES away. We still do a lot together as often as we can. Some weekends we are gone so often that our church thinks we are visitors when we come back. LOL God is good!!
Love that saying!!

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