Monday, February 17, 2014

Hmm...Attitude... Check!


Happy Monday Friends!

Hope your weekend was wonderful!!

Mine was...well...let's just say it...
CHALLENGING!

And what made matters worse, was
that I somehow let my attitude slip.
{ok...it completely fell off the cliff}


Now, I am quite certain that none of 
you ever struggle with this little issue,
but felt I needed to share on it anyway.

 Did you ever see the movie Pollyanna?


 































 Hayley Mills played a sweet young girl
who lived a happy life and transformed the lives of those around her through what she called, "The Glad Game".

No matter what she was faced with,
she would find something to be glad
about in the midst of it.


Well,

We are knee deep in handling my MIL's
affairs since she can no longer do it
herself due to dementia.  My home has
suffered, my shop has suffered,
and my joy and ability to think things
through well has suffered.

Very soon, I will more than likely become her primary caregiver.
{I know many of you have done
this for a loved one, feel free
to email me your thoughts and advice}

So today, I have decided to start fresh. 
Today I am playing the glad game.

 Why?
  
Because a lousy attitude doesn't
help anything, does it?

AND I have way too much to be thankful
for!!

 {my glad list always begins with God,
'cause that's where anything truly good
comes from...you know that, right?}
 

I am thanking Him for all of the good
and wonderful, and true things in my life.

I am even thanking Him for my Mom's death
through the same disease...because I
can know some of what to expect in the days, weeks, and months to come.

We defeat ourselves and poison those around us through a bad attitude.  I am so thankful..."glad" to have heard 
Scott Hamilton say this quote on his "I Am Second" video .  

"The only true handicap in
life is a bad attitude".

Just tied a big ol' knot in the rope I'm hanging onto, and have started swinging on it, instead of slipping down it!!
  
Woohoo!!

Life is good!
God is good!

Have a very GLAD week!!

Hugs and Love,
 Becky





19 comments:

Ceekay-THINKIN of HOME said...

so many of my friends are facing exactly what you are going through. You can do it...it probably won't be fun, but the Lord will get you through. I know I have had to learn to find joy in the midst of trial....but, thankfully, there is still joy all around us.

Rhonda said...

Just when I think to myself, God wouldn't pull that rug from underneath me again, would he? I snap into reality, life is one slippery ride!

Attitude is EVERYTHING and I love yours, Becky!! Sending prayers your way, love Rhonda

Nellie's Cozy place said...

Hi Becky,
Great post, and I think overtiredness is the most affective
attitude stealer there is, so try
and get some rest sweetie. Know it is hard in the midst of it all.
Will be praying for you all. Know you have a more than full plate.
Blessings,
Nellie

Debra Oliver said...

Becky, you're on track, and I think so many of us understand where you are right now. My piece of advice besides "all things God", is please let other's help you. From different agencies and care support, I don't think God wants us to do it alone. Our own health and well being suffers when we shoulder too much. I'm praying for others to come alongside of you to take some of the weight off your shoulders.
xoxo, lots of hugs and love, Debra

Sandi said...

I hear you dear Becky!! My attitude needs adjustment frequently, but I am trying to do better...so so trying! I think I am making progress. Hugs and prayers for you dear one!

Jill said...

Praising God in EVERYTHING...brings peace and joy. I'll say a prayer for you.

Lynn Richards said...

Don't you sometimes wish you could just handle everything all at once and then nothing would fall by the wayside? I guess then we would miss big opportunities to grow and learn...or help others by sharing what we are going through.
Wishing you much peace.
xo

NanaDiana said...

Oh, Becky. I went through the same thing with my own Mother and was her caretaker until I could no longer do it. She was in a facility for a couple of years at the end of her life. It is so sad-and yes, it really does take an attitude adjustment to deal with all the havoc it causes in your life...and her life...and your whole family's life. God bless you- You will be in my prayers. xo Diana

Donna said...

What a great post, Becky! I too have been guilty of a needed attitude adjustment, so you are far from alone! Choosing to be happy and finding the good in situations sure isn't always easy! I am so sorry to hear that your MIL has dementia, and I am also sorry that your dear Mom had it as well, I wasn't aware of that. It is such a hard thing to watch when that happens to a loved one. My mom has it, so I can relate to the stress and heartbreak. Sending prayers your way:)

Christy K said...

I will pray for you right now, dear one. You are so full of the joy of the Lord and He will sustain and restore you when your joy drops off. I can relate, as many have said. I helped my Mother care for my Dad and then my aunt and uncle. There were days I would just pray for compassion and love. I so get it!

Nancy's Notes said...

I know first hand, yes attitude is huge! Please remember, caring for yourself is one of the most important—and one of the most often forgotten! It's a must. Bless your heart! I'm happy I found your blog.
Nancy

GratefulPrayerThankfulHeart said...

A sweet and lovely honest post that is sure good for me to think about as well

BuffyPalomar said...

YOU are awesome Becky, and you will do this and be thankful you did what needed to be done! You will have good days and bad days, it's OKAY! You are a spiritual being having a human experience - it's all part of it, you will have the victory! Prayers will go up, God is your strength!

Cathy Chapman
Cathyology@aol.com

joanne said...

sending you love and prayers and thanks for giving me an attitude adjustment...I am truly blessed.

Susan Hemann said...

I took care of my mother for 5 years. She was bed ridden. Hospice in your area is a good place to start. They have respite care and so many other helpful things. Office on Aging in your community. If is will be receiving medicaid or medicare you may be able to get assistance with bathing and other things.I'm sure there is a National Dementia organization which might be helpful.
Outside support is critical to managing her care. Take a day at a time, even a minute at a time. You may have to choose your priorities for a while. No one can do it all.
There are support groups for care givers. Pray.

Carole said...

Hi Becky, a beautiful post from a beautiful heart and let's face it, who doesn't have one of "those" days. Will be thinking of you and holding you close in prayer! Carole xox

Heaven's Walk said...

Oh Becky...I am so sorry to hear this. My mother has been diagnosed with the same thing in addition to having a stroke which has left her pretty much wheelchair/bed bound. My dad did not want her put in a nursing home, so he took over being her primary caregiver. He's 81 yrs old. I go in to the city to help him a couple days/week.

Know this...you can do this. Yes, it will be life changing and very very difficult. But be sure to invest in some in-home caregivers to help you out and give you some respite time. Even if it's for 2 or 4 hrs/day. You will need that time. Dad has his caregiver arriving at 9am to get mom bed bathed, dressed, and into her wheelchair. They fix her pureed breakfast and feed her, do laundry, clean the house in spare time and then feed her lunch. She goes back to bed at 1pm. They leave for the afternoon and return at 5pm to get her up, feed her dinner, and she gets put back into bed at 8pm. It's working very well for my dad, but I can tell he's tired and stressed.

I hope this info helped a bit, sweetie. I pray that God blesses you with strength, patience, and peace in caring for your MIL. Let me know if I can help with any other information, ok?

xoxo laurie

Abby's Paperie Garden said...

You are a truly inspiring lady Miss Becky! Your faith in God and in his plan will get you through this.

xo,
abby

CatieAn said...

Thank you for such a beautiful post. I absolutely needed to hear this. My attitude failed me today with an embarrassing outburst and this is truly humbling----

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